It's official! My husband will be done with school. We shall have to pass into that uncharted world of Job Searching.
Job searching. Sending out feelers, doing research, writing a CV, interviewing, looking and trying to show my best self. Hm....this reminds me of something I've done before. That's right! Dating!
Phase one: Sending out feelers
In the dating world, whether you're fresh set of legs at a new school or just off a painful breakup, you have to do this initial step to form a relationship. Seeding out the feelers is telling the world you're available. That means you go to parties, you smile, you remember that hottie's name from your biology class.
Phase two: Doing research (aka stalking)
In this age of Google, Twitter and Facebook, you bet employers are doing background research on prospective employees and so should you! Anybody in your dating pool is fair game for stalking. Facebook, what a great invention for dating in this age. You can meet someone once, friend them, and then have access to all sorts of information, likes, dislikes, music and depending on how much information your prospective posts, a glimpse into his/her sense of humor, past dating experiences, even family life! SCORE!
Phase three: Writing the CV
In the job searching world, this is the time when you bring all you've got. You got skillz? Now is the time to list them. In the dating world, we don't write them on a piece of paper, we show them. Girls cook guys dinner, talk about your accomplishments, your talents, talk up your good attributes. Don't be shy! This is the time to wear it on your sleeves. No one else is going to brag about you, except maybe your mother. If you don't feel like you have much to share, try writing up a relationship CV, you might just amaze yourself.
Phase four: Interviews
This is a critical time. This is the actual show of commitment. Up until now, everyone has been a potential, but weeding through the unlikelies, you are ready to make your interest known. This is so critical, it should be divided into more than one group: Phone interview and personal interviews.
Phone interviews: Ah! The elusive phone call. You joke, you ask questions. You are a pleasant person, fun to be with, valuable, contributing. Show them that they should want you above all other interested parties. But there are limitations with the phone and therefore you use the phone interview to bring you to:
Personal interviews: This is the date! Actual meetage and interaction, not on-line, not on Twitter, not texting, actual face to face convo and possible, oh dare I say it? touching! Gasp!
Phase five: The Offer
So, you've looked around, they've looked around, you've come to a mutual agreement that you like each other and you think you might be a good fit for each other. But here comes the little dance. If he asks too much does he seem greedy? If he goes too low, will she accept an offer somewhere else? Find the proper balance of give and take and agree on the right, uh, remuneration, if you will. That brings us to....
Phase six: Acceptance
Now that the answer is yes, you spend all your quality and quantity time together. You are an item. You share identities. And hope that this relationship is long term because going through this process is such a hassle!